Women (and men) are fully occupied with jobs, childcare, caring for family members and the small amount of household chores that need to be done. In the evening there is often a lack of strength, desire, peace or relaxation for sex.

I can sing a song about it. With a small baby, grueling independence and irregular working hours, I couldn't get my head around doing physical activity for two in the evenings. But with my partner it was very good. "We need to keep the sex alive in our relationship," kept saying.

But how do you do that? Not letting sex disappear into a deep slumber, but nurturing and caring for it, even though you're really tired?

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