Probably noticed it already: There's a family with two, three teenaged children walking in front of you, and you can hardly keep apart, who is the mother or father and who the child. All carry equal masses of sneakers, Jeans, Sweatshirt, even the hair is similar to styled.
My mother and me would have been held at any time, even from the rear, easily apart. Adults looked completely different than children. But when I became a mother, began the generation to blur boundaries, and not just fashionable. Parents and children together, moved a step closer, it was more familiar, more open, more direct with each other. When I said "from the TV", screamed my chick: "Do it self!" Otherwise, you told me things that I had bitten off as a child, rather the tongue, as you throw my parents in the head.
Grow up and be older, have become unattractive.
Today it is, of course, to Parents, to discuss with his child, listen to him, even and especially when it is mad is, to respect his opinions and decisions. This is wonderful, because it brings in a lot of trouble just moments of closeness. I do not wish to return to at least the times when children had to respect their parents.
however, There are also sociologists and psychologists who look at the new closeness between parents and children a little more sober. They say that parents are their children therefore more and more similar, because young has been upgraded to be inter-generational scale. Grow up and be older, have become unattractive. Consequently, parents and other adults are not only linguistically, as a Teenager, you're acting like this.
There is something to it. Even statesmen are not afraid of teeniehaftem Behavior. Russian President Vladimir Putin welcomed the Saudi crown Prince Muhammad bin Salman at the G-20 summit in Buenos Aires with a buddy adhere to "High five". Probably him, the Prince is overwhelmed then a warm, "Hey, dude, what's up?" as opposed to welded.
children want to feel protected and safe, and for that, there needs to be a adult.
Of me can not refuse all the world to Welcome them with "High five" and have any cool sayings go, I would like to prefer. Certainly not with me sweetheart, my children and grandchildren. For me, this is a question of mutual respect. In the Rest of tricking the casual tone of a closeness and equality before, the not there can be alone in age at all.
There are also other reasons why I think it is not a good idea, if parents talk with their children, as if they were your best friends: disputes run faster out of control. PAL-parents tend to share things that are not suitable for children's ears. You tell a Private, even Intimate, to share Concerns and problems of adult life, as your child would be emotionally and socially with them on a wave length.
to pass on what is important to us, which is one of the most beautiful tasks for parents.
But it's not. For children this means, as a rule, insecurity and Overwork. You want to feel protected and safe, and for that it needs to be a adult that behaves like one. Last but not least, appreciate children in the future, if you maintain a little distance. Finally, not only the identity, but also the delineation of Old serves the youth of long Yes.
I believe that we should focus on us parents to convey values and norms, which we consider to be right. What is important to us, which is one of the most beautiful tasks for the parents and the offspring is ultimately grateful for it. Buddy have our children enough.
(the Swiss family)
Created: 05.03.2020, 20:43 PMUpdated Date: 05 March 2020, 20:01