When she clicked on his Facebook profile and his relationship status, her palms clammy, and her cheeks began to burn. It might not be right.

the 29-year-old Ebru Elina had apparently had sex with a man who had a girlfriend.

"I was completely in a panic and thought, 'it's a lie'. I tried to find out who the boyfriend was, but I couldn't find her," says Ebru Elina.

She stared rigidly out into the air, before she grabbed the phone and wrote to the man, she had written over some time and who had just left her bed. When he had just going to tell me that he had a girlfriend?

'Is it important?' he asked the easier rhetorical and Ebru Elinas eyes really stupid.

He knew clearly that it was precisely some of the most important thing for her.

in Fact, so important that she frantically began to look on the net for his girlfriend, so she could tell her what her guy ran off and did in secret.

'It's the season for love and understanding,' roars out of the speakers in this time. But the words of the old song can quickly make a different sound when the christmas parties will be taking place, and the alcohol paralyzes the reason.

the Cliché that christmas is peak season for infidelity, we often hear, and the rest of the year are we at the B. T. does not pale to write about infidelity.

'How to avoid infidelity', '7 thoughts that throw your partner in the arm on a second', 'Grow your gf one of these sports? So he can hide infidelity', and so the list continues with titles addressed to people in permanent relationships.

But what about the singles? It is most often those who are in the middle of the whole menageriet as catalysts for a possible ægteskabsdrama. And has the actual responsibility for it?

It believes the 29-year-old Ebru Elina that she has.

Therefore, the contacts she always men's lovers, when she discovers that they do not have clean flour in the bag. So she has it at least even.

And she is far from the only one who thinks it's the right thing to do. During a posting on Facebook has nearly 100 girls indicated that they think, you should contact the adulterous men's lovers.

Ebru Elina can not cope with the idea that we should sit a poor, ignorant gf in the other end. Mostly because she never even would risk to end there.

"I was tongue-tied over the whole situation, and I had it so bad. I was thinking, in fact on his gf again recently," says Ebru Elina that after a long time searching, never found her.

she did, however, a second time, because a man was writing flirtatious to her on Facebook.

Ebru Elina warned him and said that it was not okay, and that she would contact his girlfriend, if he is not stopped immediately.

he did not.

"I wrote to his girlfriend that 'we do not know each other, but I've had your girlfriend in my inbox. I have no idea what your rules are, and if it is okay, but if the case is that it is not okay, so I think just, you should know it. I think I owe it to you to tell it',", depicts Ebru Elina.

A small notice that her message was read, popped up on the screen, but her boyfriend answered never on the.

Couldn't you also just block him or not to answer? Why do you feel this need to contact her boyfriend?

"It is rooted in my own sense of justice. Of course you can just block them and ignore them and pretend as if it never happened, but you just know they go to the next, and the poor girlfriend don't know anything."

Can you understand people who think it is not your table?

"a Hundred percent. It is enormously personally. But if kæresterne becomes acidic over, I contact them, would my conscience not to fail anything, because I know I have done it right. If she likes the truth or not."

But where is the limit in terms of when you feel you should interfere?

"It's about the guy's intention. If the guy's intention is to seek out girls to flirt and behave as if they are singles. So you might not be in a relationship."

Is there a difference whether it's on the web or physically at a party for example?

"I must admit that I think it is easier to lure them in writing. Also just the way they find a in the. For example, if you have set something for sale or comment on a friend's picture. It is the almost deliberately to go on the hunt and exploit all opportunities. I have tried many times and know the pattern."